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NEED HELP NAVIGATING SEX ED IN YOUR HOME?

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Teaching Teens about Sex is an in-depth PDF guidebook for teaching kids ages 10-18 about bodies, consent, and sex. Learn what to teach at each stage and how to teach it. You can get lifetime access to the guide (including all future updates) for $79.

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Teaching Teens about Sex—The Parent Guidebook

— Dad of Four

"Seriously AMAZING. As parents of four kiddos, we’ve struggled to find effective and value-based teaching methods for sexuality. Carlie’s guide for younger children and now this new guide for pre-teens and teens have been absolute game changers. I can’t think of another resource that has done more to immediately level up my parenting." 

You might be FEELING like...

You don't know what your teen needs to know.

Sex ed in your home growing up was basically non-existent. You want better for your kids but don't know what that looks like. 

You're not sure what info your kids are ready for.

Figuring out what information is appropriate at each developmental age is a challenge. How soon is too soon?

You want to share your values without shame.

Your personal beliefs and values around sex and sexuality are important to you! You want to share them in healthy, positive ways. 

THE GOOD NEWS?

I've got you covered.

I have spent hundreds of hours studying how and what to teach children and teens in regard to bodies, consent, and sex (including a Human Development master's degree with a healthy sexuality research emphasis).

This guide is a compilation of that research, presented with my shame-free, positive approach to sex education. Consider yourself a sex-ed-at-home expert.

What's included in the guide?

  • 10 guiding principles for teaching your kids + teens about sex
  • Specific lessons to teach your kids in each stage (10-12, 13-15, 16-18)
  • A how-to guide for protecting children + teens from sexual predators
  • Instructions for addressing family value topics in healthy ways (i.e., the timing of sex, masturbation, LGBTQ+ topics, and modesty)
  • A how-to guide for responding to teen sexual behavior

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What are your qualifications to write this guide? 

I earned a bachelor's degree in Human Development (the majority of which focused on child development, specifically) and a master's degree in Marriage, Family, & Human Development with a research emphasis on healthy sexuality. I am a gender and sexuality researcher who has spent hundreds of hours studying how to best address these topics with children and teens. And, I'm a new mama who cares deeply about offering my kids a healthy, shame-free sex education. 

Is the guide meant only for Christian families? 

Short answer: No! Because beliefs vary dramatically from family to family, this guide focuses on the "must haves" of sex ed—things I believe every child should know. Then, in the Family Values section, I help parents solidify what sexual morals they want to teach and provide guidance on how to do so in a healthy, shame-free way. For example, in the Timing of Sex section, I provide detailed information on how to teach teens to wait until 1) they are in a safe relationship, 2) they are in a long-term committed relationship or 3) they are married. Families choose which approach they want to take, I help them do that in healthy ways.

Does this guide take an abstinence-only approach to sex ed? 

No, it doesn't. It is my professional opinion that all teenagers should learn about healthy, safe sexual relationships, regardless of family values. Research consistently shows that teens who receive comprehensive, ongoing sex education (including pregnancy and STI prevention) become sexually active later in life and are more likely to use “safe sex” practices compared to those who don’t receive it. This guide provides you with the information you need to offer that education to your children. 

If I purchase it, can I share the guide with friends or family members?

I know you want to share things that you love (which I definitely hope is how you feel about the guide). However, each purchase of the guide can only be used by members of a single household. I have done my best to price the guide to be accessible to as many families as possible. Please do not send the PDF or print copies for anyone outside your home.

Can I print the guide? Or can I only access it digitally? 

Once you purchase the PDF, it is yours to use however you would like. Feel free to have it printed (and bound, if you're feeling fancy) if you would like to have a hard copy. As long as you do not share the guide with others outside of your household, you are welcome to download it and/or print it as many times as you would like. 

Is there a version for younger kids? Mine are not in the 10-18 range yet. 

There sure is! My guide for younger children, Teaching Kids about Sex, provides information for teaching children ages 0-9. You can purchase the guides as a bundle (at a discounted price, huzzah!) or individually. To purchase the guide for younger children, navigate to the "Parents" page in the website menu and both guides will be highlighted near the top of the page. 

How does this guide address LGBTQ+ topics?

Because beliefs on these topics are so varied, especially within religious communities, I cannot tell you exactly what you should or shouldn’t teach your children (nor should I). The guide does, however, provide information to help parents better understand the LGBTQ+ community (including a brief glossary of terms) as well as suggestions for addressing these topics in a way that will foster compassion, open communication, and healthy lifelong parent-child relationships. The guide also includes a list of resources for parents of LGBTQ+ children. 

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Hi, I'm Carlie, Your BFF + New Sex Ed Guide

I earned a master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development (Healthy Sexuality emphasis) and have worked for over five years as a sexuality research ALL to become the expert that you (and your kiddos) need right now.

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