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TWO GUIDEBOOKS. ONE SIMPLE APPROACH TO SEX ED AT HOME.

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Teaching Kids about Sex & Teaching Teens about Sex are two in-depth PDF guidebooks for teaching all ages about bodies, consent, and sex. Learn what to teach at each stage and how to teach it. You can get lifetime access to both guides for $99 (a $29 discount, huzzah!).

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Teaching Kids & Teens about Sex—The Parent Guidebook Bundle

— Dad of Four

"Seriously AMAZING. As parents of four kiddos, we’ve struggled to find effective and value-based teaching methods for sexuality. Carlie’s guide for younger children and now this new guide for pre-teens and teens have been absolute game changers. I can’t think of another resource that has done more to immediately level up my parenting." 

You might be FEELING like...

You don't know what your kids need to know.

Sex ed in your home growing up was basically non-existent. You want better for your kids but don't know what that looks like. 

You're not sure what info your kids are ready for.

Figuring out what information is appropriate at each developmental age is a challenge. How soon is too soon?

You want to share your values without shame.

Your personal beliefs and values around sex and sexuality are important to you! You want to share them in healthy, positive ways. 

THE GOOD NEWS?

I've got you covered.

I have spent hundreds of hours studying how and what to teach children and teens in regard to bodies, consent, and sex (including a Human Development master's degree with a healthy sexuality research emphasis).

This guide is a compilation of that research, presented with my shame-free, positive approach to sex education. Consider yourself a sex-ed-at-home expert.

What's included in the guidebooks?

  • 10 guiding principles for teaching your kids + teens about sex
  • Specific, detailed lessons to teach your kids in each stage (i.e., ages 0-3, 4-6, 7-9, 10-12, 13-15, 16-18)
  • A how-to guide for protecting children + teens from sexual predators
  • Instructions for addressing family value topics in healthy ways (i.e., the timing of sex, masturbation, LGBTQ+ topics, and modesty)
  • A how-to guide for responding to teen sexual behavior

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What are your qualifications to write these guides? 

I earned a bachelor's degree in Human Development (the majority of which focused on child development, specifically) and a master's degree in Marriage, Family, & Human Development with a research emphasis on healthy sexuality. I am a gender and sexuality researcher who has spent hundreds of hours studying how to best address these topics with children and teens. And, I'm a new mama who cares deeply about offering my kids a healthy, shame-free sex education. 

Are the guide meant only for Christian families? 

Short answer: No! Because beliefs vary dramatically from family to family, these guides focuses on the "must haves" of sex ed—things I believe every child should know. Then, in the Family Values section, I help parents solidify what sexual morals they want to teach and provide guidance on how to do so in a healthy, shame-free way. For example, in the Timing of Sex section, I provide detailed information on how to teach teens to wait until 1) they are in a safe relationship, 2) they are in a long-term committed relationship or 3) they are married. Families choose which approach they want to take, I help them do that in healthy ways.

Do these guides take an abstinence-only approach to sex ed? 

No, they don't. It is my professional opinion that all teenagers should learn about healthy, safe sexual relationships, regardless of family values. Research consistently shows that teens who receive comprehensive, ongoing sex education (including pregnancy and STI prevention) become sexually active later in life and are more likely to use “safe sex” practices compared to those who don’t receive it. These guides provides you with the information you need to offer that education to your children. 

If I purchase, can I share the guides with friends or family members?

I know you want to share things that you love (which I definitely hope is how you feel about the guide). However, each purchase of these guides can only be used by members of a single household. I have done my best to price the guides to be accessible to as many families as possible. Please do not send the PDF or print copies for anyone outside your home.

Can I print the guides? Or can I only access them digitally? 

Once you purchase the PDFs, they are yours to use however you would like. Feel free to have them printed (and bound, if you're feeling fancy) if you would like to have a hard copy. As long as you do not share the guides with others outside of your household, you are welcome to download and/or print them as many times as you would like. 

How do these guides address LGBTQ+ topics?

Because beliefs on these topics are so varied, especially within religious communities, I cannot tell you exactly what you should or shouldn’t teach your children (nor should I). The guides do, however, provide information to help parents better understand the LGBTQ+ community (including a brief glossary of terms in the older guide) as well as suggestions for addressing these topics in a way that will foster compassion, open communication, and healthy lifelong parent-child relationships. The guide for teens also includes a list of resources for parents of LGBTQ+ children. 

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I earned a master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development (Healthy Sexuality emphasis) and have worked for over five years as a sexuality research ALL to become the expert that you (and your kiddos) need right now.

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